13 April 2021

adultful things and peppers

FG and I recently sat down and wrote our wills. Very informal, literally a Word document that spells out our wishes. I figure at the very least, it's some guidance to our families in the event that we suddenly die.
I think that's so important. Especially because we've experienced the sudden death thing and if something happens, neither of us has any legal claim to the other person's assets. We will eventually get the documents legal but for now this will have to do.
(Good thing we have good relationships with each others' families- neither of us wants to have to haunt people for not carrying out our wishes.)
Because of that conversation, I tracked down some old retirement accounts, which required rifling through some old files in the storage unit, and am going to get those rolled over and organized. Such adult-ful stuff. 

Got that dental work done, with no drugs. It was awful but I got through it. I really need to get a prescription for some light anti-anxiety meds for situations like that. I have some drugs to take, courtesy of Mah, but without a prescription if I get drug tested for some reason, I'm screwed. In the meantime I suffered through it and now my mouth is really sore. Oh, teeth. Why can't you be good?

Oh yeah, the peppers. I heard that the produce you get at grocery stores is genetically altered so that if you try to plant the seeds, they will not grow. To test this, I took some pepper seeds to see what would happen. They sprouted and I have some little plants, but we will see if I get peppers to grow. 

07 April 2021

this, that, and the other

I'm really tired tonight and would happily go to bed right now, but I'm waiting for an hour that seems more appropriate to go to sleep.

Let's see, what's going on?

Work- my morale is better, since things have mellowed out for a few weeks and the forecast looks more normal.

Anxieties- I need a root canal in the back, another old filling got loose and decayed underneath. Going to self-medicate this time.

Pleasantries- Dad came to visit. It was so nice to see him. He helped with a project in the backyard, and overall he's just so cool to hang out with. I was sad to see him leave but at the same time happy I don't have to put on pants to get coffee in the morning. Would love to book a trip this year to go to San Diego and see him.

Speaking of trips, we booked a trip to Denver for FG's birthday. The flights were super cheap, and we plan to head into the mountains and avoid the city.

I keep meaning to document some of the garden. The spinach bolted, I did some research and it likes shorter days and colder weather so there's a lesson there. The zucchini has blooms and hopefully I'll get veggies- I've tried it before and I had apparently healthy plants, but never got any veggies. Maybe this is the year for that.

10 March 2021

division of labor

Last night, something happened.
I was brushing my teeth when FG walked up to wash his hands. He tried the soap dispenser, and no soap came out. He looked at me and said, "The soap dispenser needs to be refilled."
I continued brushing my teeth for a few seconds before I realized that the casual comment was directed at me. Like it was my job to fill the soap dispenser. I told him that he was more than welcome to refill it, and continued brushing my teeth.

I thought about why that happened. Since I moved in, I've been the one who does most of the cleaning. It's just what I naturally do. I like to clean, and I kind of took it over, to the point where I guess FG started to expect it. 

The problem is, if I do all the work, that's what the expectation becomes. He's a grown man who is perfectly capable of helping maintain the household, yet I'm taking care of all of it. I think it's time to take a step back and start requesting a little more balance when it comes to house cleaning. 

We'll see how long it takes before the soap dispenser gets refilled. 

21 February 2021

Rambles here we go

Scene: sitting on the couch in my fuzzy pink bathrobe with a glass of wine and Friends on tv, yelling for the cat to come join me but she won't.

Ah. So nice.

Today was one of those days where my feet hit the floor when I got out of bed and I did not stop moving until I plopped my butt on the couch a few minutes ago. But of course I'll get up to fold the clothes and empty the dishwasher when it's done.

Today, though, I got ME time! It's so weird how I bitch about something here and then shortly afterwards I get it. [I need to become a millionaire, thanks] This happened because we had to cancel our trip to Austin because of sketchy power and water (boooo) and FG decided to stay at our friends' property. I saw my opportunity and declined to go. The most significant part of today, even though I accomplished so much, was that I turned the thermostat OFF.

One of the biggest differences that FG and I have discovered after living together (besides each others pets) is that we prefer very different temperatures in the house. In regards to the heater, I'm the type to wear some fuzzy socks and a long sleeved shirt and avoid turning it on. I'm losing this particular disagreement because it's been insanely cold (and we luckily made it through unscathed), and my main complaint? It's so DRY. The inside of my nose, my eyeballs, my skin... it's all dry. It's so uncomfortable, even with a humidifier in the bedroom and a boiling pot of water on the stove. Something about the heat from the furnace sucks all the moisture out of the air and it's miserable! Today, I won. Tomorrow, I'll go back to losing again.

I started working on my garden. Getting seeds to start is sometimes so easy and rewarding, and sometimes it's... nothing. I've grown sunflowers successfully before, and they didn't sprout easily this year so I tried again and I'm hoping I can get some. The zucchini has sprouted and is going strong. The spinach is wimpy looking, the peppers and beans didn't show up, and I think I have some sage making an appearance. Regardless of what sprouts, this is a new yard with a new sun pattern and I'll have to learn what grows and what doesn't. Aside from the actual plants, my other immediate goal is creating a space that is free of dog poop. Oh my God. How does such a small dog poop so much!? Dog poop turns my stomach. It's so gross. It's alllll over the place and smells so bad and I'm afraid to step in it. Yuck. I have a plan, though. There will be a 7ft x 5ft spot it the yard that will NOT have poop in it, so help me. 

Oh, next week we get houseguests. FG's parents will be visiting for a week, since they've gotten the covid vaccine, and then my dad will be coming into town but I'm not sure where he will be staying. I'm going to have to have the, "please don't accidentally gluten the peanut butter" talk with everyone, and I'll have to wear a bra and pants around the house, but other than that I'm excited about it.

20 February 2021

Stuff I love right now

 Another round of things I think are awesome:

1. Squeeze peanut butter. 


This is the best thing since sliced bread! Just squeeze it on whatever you're snacking on, and move along. I hope they keep this a thing because I'm loving it. PLUS, no gluten crumbs ever make their way into it. (I'm generally a fan of things that squeeze because of this important little factor.)

2. Maybelline Rocket Volum' Express mascara


Since I've started wearing this, I've been asked by three people if I was wearing false eyelashes. That's a big deal. I switched to this mascara because the old mascara that I've used for years started irritating my eyes and I chose it because it has one of those hard spiky brushes- which is a deal breaker for some, but a must for me. I love the formula. It goes on smooth and doesn't clump, and after a long day it doesn't flake or smear. Plus, it washes off with my normal facial cleanser.

3. the Aerogarden.

It was a birthday gift from FG. This thing is so cool. It's kind of a "set it and forget it" kind of garden. All the work is done by this little machine and things grow like crazy. If something doesn't grow, they send a replacement. So far I've grown herbs that I transplanted into dirt and are doing great, and I started a salad greens set that is going strong. When I want salad, I pick some. No more sad wilted greens in the back of the fridge.

4. Maty's heartburn pills.

I bought these as a stocking stuffer for FG, but have found that they work very well for my frequent nausea and indigestion. I take them more often than he does! I love that they WORK and they don't contain any weird stuff. They are a life saver and I feel comfortable taking them on a regular basis.

5. Liquid fabric softener. Really. I've never used it. (Did mom never use it?) I thought it was an old people thing bc FG uses it, and when I discovered that, I rolled my eyes and continued my laundry routine. But then one day, I was moving his wet clothes from the washer to the dryer, and they felt... soft. Even when they were wet. And then I washed the bedsheets without it, and they felt noticeably different. So I started adding a little it to my laundry and wouldn't you know, it's a big deal! It kinda makes the fabric fibers seem more flexible. Cool stuff.

14 February 2021

me time and stuff

I was thinking, I rarely get ME time anymore. I'm talking about those quiet minutes of solitude. I get a few minutes here and there if FG takes a nap or is out back smoking, but that's definitely a big change from all the ME time I used to get. Not that I find I need a ton of ME time, but it's nice to grab now and again. For instance, to blog.

Oh, the kitchen is done. It's beautiful and I'll have to share pictures.

I started some plants for the garden. This year the garden will be in pots since the fence will be replaced and I don't want my hard work stomped on by work men.

I got so close to finishing the push up challenge! But on day 26 I started noticing a sharp pain in my left shoulder that didn't feel like normal soreness, so I stopped to avoid hurting myself. I did make some great progress, though. I got to a point where I could do 15 in a row. Now we've kinda stalled about what to do next.

The hot tub has been ultra-awesome in these cold temperatures. We are all prepped for the freezing weather. In case the pipes freeze, we have jugs of water to flush the toilets. In case the power goes out, we have flashlights and wood to burn in the fireplace, and we can always cook on the grill. We already had the power go out once so this should be fun.

At work, the account I've been working at for months was supposed to go live next week, but mother nature changed that. Just going to go with the flow and not going to stress, and I'm absolutely not driving if the roads are icy.

16 January 2021

more chaos

It wasn't even two days after I bitched about all that stuff, when I came home from work, walked into the kitchen, and the vent above the stove was replaced. Now I have a beautiful, functional vent- and I'm not used to it so I keep forgetting to turn it on, ha.

The kitchen remodel has began. Every day I've come home to a new development and the transformation is... breathtaking. It's so beautiful. It's so bright and light and shiny and functional. It's hard to pick my favorite part but it might be that now there is a pantry in the kitchen instead of behind two doors in the laundry room. Or it could be the new built-in shelves that were custom designed to be tall enough to fit wine bottles, or the new bright lights, or the extended windowsill that is deep enough to hold small pots of herbs, or the gorgeous sparkly quartz countertops... never mind the fact that at the moment, there is no kitchen sink and we're washing dishes in the bathroom. And the house is a mess of sheetrock dust, random screws, and things like the kitchen aid and coffee pot are in the living room.

To be honest, the old kitchen didn't bother me that much. Sure, it was old but it was clean and mostly functional. When I moved in I thought I would miss my nice kitchen, but I adapted better than I thought I would. However well I adapted, for someone who cooks as much as I do, this new space is an absolute treat. I can't even tell you how pretty it is. It's an open space in the middle of the house and makes everything feel more brighter and less like a cave.